tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post1106795220574605188..comments2023-10-08T16:27:56.948+01:00Comments on auntiegwensdiary: End of Storyauntiegwenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-6289919351494036312012-11-11T02:17:34.223+00:002012-11-11T02:17:34.223+00:00Yaay congrats to sister :DYaay congrats to sister :DTazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13575542198843990599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-10932575521571023872012-11-09T09:03:31.676+00:002012-11-09T09:03:31.676+00:00Lena - ta hen xxx
Sandi - ah the selective hearin...Lena - ta hen xxx<br /><br />Sandi - ah the selective hearing top trump card, know it well. Your daughter sounds fab xxx<br /><br />Suburbia - yep I am scared that my daughters will view me the way I view my mother<br /><br />NB - yep, my sister will end up with most of it unfortunately. Life gets tricky sometimes, thanks for message and hug, gratefully received auntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-39782542212998072692012-11-04T18:09:16.575+00:002012-11-04T18:09:16.575+00:00Love the wee bairn...beautiful.
As for your mum.....Love the wee bairn...beautiful.<br /><br />As for your mum...well I saw my father live and die through Parkinsons...I remember when he tried to tell me after he was diagnosed...he couldn't find the words, and I was too young to appreciate and understand....he was terrified. Whatever may be wrong with your mum,it would be hard for her to face...so perhaps it is best for her not to know. You are too far away from her geographically, so others closer will have to help. Big hug xxxxNota Benehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969705852180234416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-11697361245216646122012-11-03T18:30:37.048+00:002012-11-03T18:30:37.048+00:00Yep I think I would be in denial too if it was my ...Yep I think I would be in denial too if it was my mind. I do feel for you though, it must be very frustrating, relationships with mothers are difficult at the best of times - and having a lovely 16 year old sitting next to me now, I wish it was not the case. Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05352465945711496612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-27688371672388060472012-11-03T04:51:52.813+00:002012-11-03T04:51:52.813+00:00I have the same sort of relationship with my mum. ...I have the same sort of relationship with my mum. She either has 'selective' hearing or she needs to get her ears checked, which she hotly denies, tells me I talk too quietly (everyone else can hear me). She never asks how I am, just comes in the door with the same droopy shoulders and the same 'hello' then arms crossed launches into all the misery of her life and her ill health (she is full of good health) but if I start to talk she basically ignores me. I love her dearly however I really dislike some of her behaviour, and so do my kids. She is horrid to my dad who has Macular disease and cannot see very well, this upsets me and my kids no end as he has done just about everything for her and she has spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on natural products and chiropractors and Naturopaths over the last 30 odd years, money that he worked hard to earn, but tells him off if he wants something for himself. I end up buying things for him so she cannot do anything about it. Oooh I could go on but I won't, so I get where you are coming from and I work at not being like her. When they are here, I enjoy a glass of wine hehe. Thank goodness the kids and I have a fantastic relationship. My 22 year old daughter actually thanked me a couple of weeks ago for being such a great mum and person, had a wee tear. Your nephew is so tiny and so sweet.<br />Take care Auntie<br />xoxo Sandi<br />sandiarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06395329327447746029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-3058295691430747112012-11-02T22:35:30.398+00:002012-11-02T22:35:30.398+00:00Oh, Gwen - I'm sorry to here this. It's an...Oh, Gwen - I'm sorry to here this. It's an awful condition - went through it with my aunt.<br /><br />Don't be too tough on yourself - I was never close to my mother. It is hard to admit, but I never loved my mum as much as I did my dad. I'll be thinking of you.......Helenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13447013188405986054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-15898179156956545552012-11-02T18:36:24.748+00:002012-11-02T18:36:24.748+00:00LFBS - he's a bonny wee boy isn't he? yep,...LFBS - he's a bonny wee boy isn't he? yep, going to try and help my dad as he will accept help xx<br /><br />Gigi - toughest gig of the lot that one, thanks for the hugs, they and gin, always welcome xauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-85215110398826621892012-11-02T00:37:23.410+00:002012-11-02T00:37:23.410+00:00Oh Gwen; the mother/daughter relationship is a dif...Oh Gwen; the mother/daughter relationship is a difficult one isn't it? Not even counting the issues you are facing, it's a tough one. Sending you lots and lots of hugs. xGigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-68035285047945140632012-11-01T23:46:48.757+00:002012-11-01T23:46:48.757+00:00Your nephew is gorgeous and that picture really pu...Your nephew is gorgeous and that picture really put a smile on your face, but I am really sorry to read about your mum. My Mum had dementia, but reacted differently, but I can see why yours would be in denial, as you said, who wouldn't if they knew what might be ahead? But you can only do what you can do, she is an adult and has to live her own life. Hope your Dad is okay xxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-78334584799973015692012-11-01T20:25:45.515+00:002012-11-01T20:25:45.515+00:00K - so many of us facing this, good to know I'...K - so many of us facing this, good to know I'm in the company of good friends, gin? xxxauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-74866566182940235302012-11-01T20:08:58.945+00:002012-11-01T20:08:58.945+00:00I have no patience with my mother. Part of me thi...I have no patience with my mother. Part of me thinks it's because as soon as I accept her frailty by acknowledging it, instead of railing against it, I accept our relationship status has changed and I become the carer not her.Regardless of the difficult nature of the relationship, the point of change is still very hard indeed. I guess there are so many of us, our age, now having to face this kind of dilemma. I can't say anything to help but I do understand the rather familar situation. xxxAGuidingLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823333742737762759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-28609966384185243502012-11-01T18:20:28.360+00:002012-11-01T18:20:28.360+00:00Libs - hard work ain't it just. My baby indeed...Libs - hard work ain't it just. My baby indeed is now having his hair cut every 3 weeks!!! getting quite expensive... xxxauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-3497319709551055822012-11-01T17:58:35.236+00:002012-11-01T17:58:35.236+00:00Oh babe......as ayak said, don't beat yourself...Oh babe......as ayak said, don't beat yourself up. I do feel for you. We are facing some of the same things and it ain't fun is it? Your folks are lucky to have you.<br />The baby is gorgeous...and your baby must have cut his hair since we saw him last...speak soon xxxlibbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05552884005601003691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-16060407377386041802012-11-01T15:21:20.507+00:002012-11-01T15:21:20.507+00:00Ayak - yes she gets on better with my sister but v...Ayak - yes she gets on better with my sister but very much sees my sister as still 12 and in need of help. Will wait for a bit to see how things go and then try again after my Xmas visit home. Thanks muchly xxx <br /><br />Expat mum - yep will try and access the charity support, I do quite a lot of work with Age UK, and a lot of the neurological charities so am well placed to find help. I am just not very good with my mum becuase of the lifetime of stuff we have.<br /><br />M & J - so true, will concentrate on suppporting my dad as he is the one dealing with it day in day out auntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-90430967114207201882012-11-01T14:56:19.509+00:002012-11-01T14:56:19.509+00:00Does anyone have a good relationship with their Mo...Does anyone have a good relationship with their Mother, that relationship is so difficult. My Mother and I were not close, I use to blame that on the fact I lived so far away, but in fact I don't think my Mother was close to anyone, she held them away.<br />If you can't help your Mom help your Dad, how hard it must be for him. Mac n' Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05732924562630675589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-63073961655747938742012-11-01T14:39:19.571+00:002012-11-01T14:39:19.571+00:00Oh dear. I think a lot of what she's doing is ...Oh dear. I think a lot of what she's doing is because of dementia onset, although all parents go through some of this as they get older. Many of them lose confidence in driving or just doing things that are outside their normal routine.<br />Is there a dementia society? (Like the Alzheimer's one?) Perhaps they have some material for families that you could flick through to understand why you are reacting the way you are. Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-48736646887389038112012-11-01T13:05:58.768+00:002012-11-01T13:05:58.768+00:00OK. Stop beating yourself up. I can say this bec...OK. Stop beating yourself up. I can say this because my late mother and I had a very difficult relationship..by the sound of it, pretty similar to yours. My mother had Parkinsons Disease for years, and I had all these guilt feelings because I wasn't patient enough. But you can't change the nature of the relationship because they are ill, or appear to be ill.<br /><br />You cannot force her to get help, and getting frustrated about it won't help her, or make you feel any better about it all.<br /><br />Does she have a better relationship with your sister even though you say she hasn't been to visit for a while? My mother got on far better with my 2 brothers, so I'm afraid they were the ones who had to be firm and deal with things.<br /><br />I do feel for you though. I think I know exactly what you're going through. xxxAyakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16903896106779269050noreply@blogger.com