tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post6202582045870761091..comments2023-10-08T16:27:56.948+01:00Comments on auntiegwensdiary: Precariously balancedauntiegwenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-224127991955755882011-02-17T19:46:35.081+00:002011-02-17T19:46:35.081+00:00Chic mama - I'm now wondering how it'll be...Chic mama - I'm now wondering how it'll be when they next have to go and stay with him.auntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-54883811724933324672011-02-16T13:38:21.258+00:002011-02-16T13:38:21.258+00:00So sorry your children have the taken the news bad...So sorry your children have the taken the news badly. It is so hard for them and usually it's the parent that lives with them that has to pick up the pieces and try and 'fix things' I really hope they accept it however hard it is. Horrid. :( xxChic Mamahttp://www.chicmama.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-72132158421623603122011-02-14T16:29:29.564+00:002011-02-14T16:29:29.564+00:00Ayak - thank you for the kinds words, it's gre...Ayak - thank you for the kinds words, it's great to hear the stories of when things go well :)auntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-54313335817653480142011-02-14T15:10:19.291+00:002011-02-14T15:10:19.291+00:00It is upsetting for them (in spite of some people ...It is upsetting for them (in spite of some people thinking they are perhaps being selfish...ffs).<br /><br />My two kids went through the same emotions when their father remarried. It does get better. Like yours, my kid's father has always been there for them so there was a good solid relaionship to start with. Over the years they have grown close to their stepmum, and have two half-sisters, now in their teens, who they adore.<br /><br />You're a fabulous mum...it comes across so clearly..you'll get them through it.Ayakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16903896106779269050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-32218874614665303422011-02-14T11:05:18.028+00:002011-02-14T11:05:18.028+00:00WG - thank you, it's so good to hear views fro...WG - thank you, it's so good to hear views from differing perpectives, I am so glad all went well for you. I have a few good friends who have an awful time with their partners/husbands ex wives and it really can put a big strain on their relationships.auntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-58685962213364113162011-02-14T10:59:19.490+00:002011-02-14T10:59:19.490+00:00auntiegwen, as the second wife of The Husband (tho...auntiegwen, as the second wife of The Husband (though I should say at this juncture that I didn't meet him until several years after his separation) I've been through all of this from the other side. I think that it's the finality of the situation that causes the tears. There is now officially no way that a reconciliation will come about, even if it was absolutly off the cards anyway. I've been lucky that I've always had a very good relationship with The Husband's ex and with my wonderful stepson of whom I'm immensely proud but even then it was very difficult telling him we had decided to get married. You have a close and loving family and you will come through it. Hugs to you allWylye Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03513714783299643621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-15624280894679504882011-02-14T10:13:33.775+00:002011-02-14T10:13:33.775+00:00Andy - cheers me dear, I hope my kids end up where...Andy - cheers me dear, I hope my kids end up where you got to, it gladdens my heart to know that for some people it doesn't irreparably damage them :)auntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-67806352622350590192011-02-14T10:10:02.615+00:002011-02-14T10:10:02.615+00:00I know it'll all work out OK AG, your kids hav...I know it'll all work out OK AG, your kids have you in their corner so they are already way ahead of the curve.<br /><br />Oh, and Anon, just for for your ref; I was in a very similar situation as Gwen's kids are now, during my teenage years. Luckily my parents also gave me the space I needed to work things out for myself. They understood how I ticked and they cut me some slack accordingly. I now have a fantastic relationship with both parents and their respective partners.<br /><br />Had I been pressured during that difficult time, things may not have worked out so well.<br /><br />Some folk are just lucky to have parents that are grownups I guess.Andyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06169515180440853249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-53127854951091262142011-02-14T08:38:41.720+00:002011-02-14T08:38:41.720+00:00Alienne - indeed they have, they just needed a bit...Alienne - indeed they have, they just needed a bit of time to absorb it :) x<br /><br />Madame - all seeming to be business as usual now, thankfully<br /><br />Taz - thanks, hugs always welcome, as are gin and chocolate :) x<br /><br />Sandi - that's it in a nutshell, she didn't know why it upset her but it did, all seems much calmer now though :) xxxauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-35429419274274342872011-02-14T08:35:32.052+00:002011-02-14T08:35:32.052+00:00Anon - imagine children being selfish and immature...Anon - imagine children being selfish and immature and only seeing things from their perspective, Jesus, really shocking isn't it?auntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-77099492277278381482011-02-14T08:33:46.296+00:002011-02-14T08:33:46.296+00:00Gigi - even just a few days on they seem more acce...Gigi - even just a few days on they seem more accepting of it :)<br /><br />LFBS - yeah, I hate when they're upset but as I say a few days on, so much better<br /><br />CQ - that's it isn't it, they just feel something and they can't quite work out why but they'll be grand<br /><br />S - I was genuinely pleased for him and I know he would be for me if the situation was reversed, nice that, when there is no huge animosityauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-20556782395260681092011-02-13T23:32:09.952+00:002011-02-13T23:32:09.952+00:00Having been there and experienced this all I can a...Having been there and experienced this all I can add is....time heals, keep the communication open, support with love, hugs, tears and good humour. (A dose of hot boy may help too and some chocolate). Perhaps your children would have liked their dad to have discussed this with them so that they felt part of it. Sometimes we just don't know why we feel the way we do about something. Sending love your way xx SandiSandihttp://www.sandiart.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-46818117981172197432011-02-13T22:52:50.039+00:002011-02-13T22:52:50.039+00:00((((Hugs)))) for all((((Hugs)))) for allTazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13575542198843990599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-4472716678295994492011-02-13T21:21:08.591+00:002011-02-13T21:21:08.591+00:00Not a situation with which I am at all familiar, b...Not a situation with which I am at all familiar, but I hope everyone recovers their equilibrium soon.Madame DeFargehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08172239340844485940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-2817765135321618442011-02-13T20:26:02.103+00:002011-02-13T20:26:02.103+00:00I can't offer any real advice not having been ...I can't offer any real advice not having been in this situation. Teenagers can be so touchy about things that you wouldn't expect them to be concerned about, but they also seem to be able to recover pretty quickly. If they have a good relationship with their father, and it sounds as if they do, they must also know their future step mother pretty well too and will probably recover from the shock fast once they have had time to absorb it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-81629522476488091182011-02-13T19:30:24.378+00:002011-02-13T19:30:24.378+00:00am I missing something, I'm sorry I fail to se...am I missing something, I'm sorry I fail to see what your children are upset about just because daddy has got engaged to someone he has known four years, isn't he entitled to a life now you are divorced? The children are being very selfish and immature that they won't visit and are strssed,shocked and upset, why? Dad is still the same person he was three days ago. your label says moving on, perhaps that is what you should doAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-59842911533174438402011-02-13T16:23:27.746+00:002011-02-13T16:23:27.746+00:00hmmm, not good but these sort of things do have a ...hmmm, not good but these sort of things do have a habit of working out and I suppose as they get used to the idea they will get happy benefit from something (if only a wedding party and new clothes). Whereas you, I suspect, will have to be that continuing emotional rock and that is on top of having to come to terms with the divorce let alone his marriage. What a rotten time. Sigh, maybe you could just declare it Annus Horriblis already and then things can only get better :)AGuidingLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05823333742737762759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-8920546465081418872011-02-13T15:17:07.967+00:002011-02-13T15:17:07.967+00:00It really doesn't matter that it shouldn't...It really doesn't matter that it shouldn't matter - it just does, doesn't it? (If that's not too convoluted a sentiment!) Your poor kids (and poor you). You know it will all settle down eventually but it's a rough ride getting there. Big hugs xxCurry Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01357154781453417176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-61801257062543197752011-02-13T14:34:50.721+00:002011-02-13T14:34:50.721+00:00That just sounds so heart-breaking and so stressfu...That just sounds so heart-breaking and so stressful. There's not much worse than seeing your children in pain and feeling miserable. Sending lots and lots of love and hugs your way xxxxLooking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-25418921593049553722011-02-13T14:06:37.935+00:002011-02-13T14:06:37.935+00:00Gwen - I'm so sorry that the kids are having a...Gwen - I'm so sorry that the kids are having a rough time of it. Keeping you all in my thoughts.Gigihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05467164195744234746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-87517150471859261792011-02-13T13:07:10.653+00:002011-02-13T13:07:10.653+00:00Kitty - I wish I could make it easier for them but...Kitty - I wish I could make it easier for them but I imagine time will bring a sense of acceptance xxxauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-31956518657233923232011-02-13T12:59:08.872+00:002011-02-13T12:59:08.872+00:00Oh AuntieGwen, sweetheart, huge hugs. I understand...Oh AuntieGwen, sweetheart, huge hugs. I understand, I empathise completely. You have a strong and secure family, this will pass, it's just hard right now while it's still raw, uncomfortable and strange.<br />It had to happen eventually, I guess ripping off the plaster is never easy, regardless how well-healed the wound is underneath.<br />Sending you calming and peaceful thoughts to all of the Beautiful People involved, especially you.<br />Hugs and quiches from Kitty xxxKittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17522607782000045577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-83439567974839650342011-02-13T12:57:25.491+00:002011-02-13T12:57:25.491+00:00Angel - a beauty giveaway? really? wow that'll...Angel - a beauty giveaway? really? wow that'll make everything okayauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-26968182922529305322011-02-13T12:56:01.138+00:002011-02-13T12:56:01.138+00:00VR - I suppose for your kids they have got used to...VR - I suppose for your kids they have got used to the dynamic as it is, change sometimes seems more scary, for my kids the only difference will be she will be his fiancee rather than a girlfriend, they have lived together for years anyway xxauntiegwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03605486752049211743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1837862718388354747.post-86630036759121679112011-02-13T12:51:44.282+00:002011-02-13T12:51:44.282+00:00Great blog hun, I have a BEAUTY GIVEAWAY on my You...Great blog hun, I have a BEAUTY GIVEAWAY on my YouTube channel if you're interested you can enter here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K70-slx5Drs<br /><br />Good luck hun, take care x<br /><br />Angel of <a href="http://www.highheelsandlipgloss.com" rel="nofollow">High Heels & Lipgloss</a><br /><a href="http://youtube.com/angelarmogida" rel="nofollow">youtube.com/angelarmogida</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07712719922070889499noreply@blogger.com