Wednesday 9 January 2008

New Year New Me

Okay I have wallowed in my misery, gazed at my navel and had my pity party. Thank you for all your kind comments, emails and texts, I do appreciate it.

Time to move on. I never make New Year Resolutions, not sure why but these are not resolutions per se, this is me attempting to clarify what I want from life.

If I blog this, you can all help me, yes I know I'm lazy and I should do this all by my own self, but you're all such lovely people and you all have such different lives and experiences and viewpoints. Please join in and make suggestions, set me little challenges, open my eyes and make me think. I want you all to check in from time to time to see how I'm getting on with my plan

I want to decide what career I'm going to have - will I stay in teaching or retrain ? What other jobs can I do ?

I would like to be more patient with my own children as I seem to use it all up with other people's

I would like to be fitter, my running has all but stopped but I'd like to do more

I want to lose some of the weight I've put on - I will eat less and move around more

I want to be a better friend, I am getting shockingly bad at keeping in touch

I want to be more organised

I want my house to be cleaner and tidier ( no I can't lose the kids)

I want to stop depending on other people to make me happy - I need to learn to make myself happy

I want to stop feeling like a failure because I am single - a spouse or partner does not automatically make people happy and I must try to remember this

I want to have peace of mind

I want to feel truly happy again


lisa q. said...

"I want to stop depending on other people to make me happy - I need to learn to make myself happy"

sweetie, this one is the best on your list and will go a long way to helping with the others...what you have to do to accomplish it is fall in love with yourself...make a list of all the wonderful things about you, practice positive affirmations, surround yourself with things and people that make you feel good about yourself...look in the mirror everyday and say i love you...

"I want to stop feeling like a failure because I am single - a spouse or partner does not automatically make people happy and I must try to remember this"

when you love yourself and your life, being single is much easier to deal with...remember how miserable bad relationships made you feel, be grateful for the lessons they taught you, and then let them go...doing so will help you attract the love you deserve in your life...

love ya me if i can help in any way! :P

DAB said...

Sweet Jesus girl, when you ask you ask big questions!
I reckon lisa q has given you the answers. Learn to love yourself, go on you can do it. Small steps TFX

Karen said...

When I caved in and started writing 'properly' again, about six years ago, I started feeling truly like myself for the first time (if that makes sense) and a LOT of other things fell into place - perhaps because I was more content. Is there anything you're completely passionate about in life? Something totally absorbing that takes you out of yourself, that isn't to do with family? Joseph Addison (ooh, get me...I looked it up, I'm not in the habit of quoting poets or anything!)once said that "Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for."
Hope that helps a bit - if not, sorry to have blathered on :)

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Squirmy Popple said...

In terms of keeping fit, I've found the one only things that worked for me (someone who loathes the gym) was walking. In Scotland I had no choice but to walk almost everywhere; in New York I resist the urge to use the car whenever it's practical to do so.

Also doing pilates/yoga/lifting weights at home - you can fit it into your schedule whenever and 20-30 minutes a few times a week is enough to keep you in shape.

Good luck!

auntiegwen said...

Thank you thank you thank you

Lisa - you're right, I was very miserable but once I'd made the decision I did feel happier

TF - thank you for the support xx

Karen - thank you so much, I love that quote

- can't you bring me anything back from your travels to miraculously make me thin ? I thought you could get anything in America ?

Poetess said...

From one single mother to the another.

Happy New year, HAPPY Belated Blog Birthday.

I can relate to your single failure. I am happy single, I keep thinking of all the up sides to it. My problem is when married friends discriminate against me for it. We miss out on being invited to dinner because it will make for odd numbers, or maybe they thinK we don't actually eat we just pick up the scraps from the kids plates.

It can be a very lonely experience, but I don't think I would trade it to be married/attached again.

Love the freedom.

Oh I love your "give yourself peace"


auntiegwen said...

Thank you so much poetess

I am trying hard to be happy, honest !!!


Shirley said...

Having read your later posts first, I feel like a voice from the future. But I would like to point out that you are actually making strides (no pun intended) toward your goal of running more. You ran five miles a week or two ago! Impressive, lady! (June 8, 2008)